Falling in Love

Reader's question: Need advice from you Sir! Is it good to fall in love????

My Reply:

“Fall in love” is such an interesting expression.

It is good to love others.  It is good to have an exclusive sexual relationship in which the partners truly care about, and respect, each other. It is never good to be needy, or to feel dependent upon another.

Love one another but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea
between the shores of your souls.
- Khalil Gibran

Lord, grant that I might not so much
seek to be loved as to love.
- St. Francis of Assisi

Love does not claim possession, but gives freedom.
- Rabindranath Tagore

Love is granting another the space to be
the way they are and the way they are not.
- Werner Erhard

Know the power and the peace of saying,
"I love you just the way you are."
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Read my article How to Avoid Falling in Love with Love

If you have a more specific question, please email me again at sail7 @ sail7 . com

May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

It Is Up To You

Reader question: dear sir , i really do have somewhat of a big problem , at least that whats i consider to be . i tend to care a great deal about people but they don't tend to return that care or love back , its not like i want something in return but i just think it would be nice if things are balanced , and it really gets me confused as in what to do .. need a few ideas on how to deal with such people.. thanks a lot .. Looking forward to hearing from you ..

My response:

It is about you - it is not about them.

Life isn't fair - or balanced.

It is up to you to live a joyful and productive life.

Lord, grant that I might not so much
seek to be loved as to love.
- St. Francis of Assisi

Don't Take Anything Personally.
Nothing others do is because of you.
- Miguel Angel Ruiz (don Miguel Ruiz)

You don't have the power to make life "fair,"
but you do have the power to make life joyful.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair."
Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be.
Demanding that life meet our expectations
is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence.
Life is a game with no rules.
Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions.
Our only path to happiness lies in being open
to receiving whatever life throws at us -
with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Further reading: Zero-Based Gratitude

Life is Not Supposed to be Fair

May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie