Question: I have suffered a lifetime of abuse, disrespect and humiliation within the circle of my immediate family. I have finally walked away and expressed that I will not ever, ever, ever, tolerate disrespect, ever again. What do you suggest Mr. Huie, to ease the pain.
My Answer:
Yes, be done with those who continue to hurt you.
Try to let go of the anger and hate, but be done - and don't look back.
Build other relationships. Join supportive groups. Especially look for opportunities to be of service to those less fortunate than yourself.
Read my article How to Move On and Let Go
These two article are addressed to somewhat different problems, but you may find some relevant thoughts in them: How to Forgive and Move On Don't Stay in a Broken Marriage "For the Children"
Once you have seen the truth,
you must make the decision to let go
of the pain, anger, and resentment you have been holding on to.
This requires you to take action.
If you are attached to your pain, resentment,
and self-righteousness, and addicted to your emotional reactions,
this will be a difficult step for you.
Taking action requires letting go of the very thing
you have been holding on to for so many years.
There is comfort in what we find familiar,
even if we are experiencing pain and suffering.
The pain and suffering itself becomes the familiarity we seek.
It takes absolute faith in yourself
plus courage, will, and discipline to let go.
But once you let go, it will be as if
the weight of the world has been taken off your shoulders.
In this process it is important to forgive
not just the others in our lives, but also ourselves.
For most people, giving ourselves
the gift of forgiveness is very challenging.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie
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May the world be kind to you, and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie